Five Unrecongised Ways That Can Make Your Husband Slips Away
From You.
In making a relationship to work
depends solely on the two parties involved, that is why it is often difficult
for me to believe there is a universal solution to relationship. What work for
you may not work for your friend. This article is based on my findings which
may help you in building a healthy relationship.
These are my findings having observed some
couples (families) around my environment and reading different complains posted
by husband on different websites about their wife and home at large. Though,
the list may not include all difficulties being encountered at home but if these
little things can be properly managed and well tailored, I strongly belief that
your family may experience some rests, happiness and enjoy unending love.
Often times, we I do hear friends
complaining about this and that about their wives especially the first two or
three years of their marriage. This ginger my spirit to write little could find
on the topic.
Ladies or women should take a
critical look into these:
1. Not taking care of yourself – it has been discovered that most ladies or
women refused to take proper care of themselves after they have married. They
give no attention to their weight, dressings and their looks. These things are
neglected by most of them, especially their weight, some do not even care about
what they eat, and this turned some of them to become overweight.
The most common
and disappointing parts are those who dressed loosely because they have given
birth to two or three children and this make the husband to wonder, is this
MaryJane that I married? I can’t belief Janet can be as fat as this? Can Roseline be loosed like this? These and
the related questions fly through the men’s mind and make their hearts to
ponder about the love.
2. Passing affections to the children and
neglecting the man - wives do neglect their husbands for the children,
they divert attentions and affections toward the children alone, instead of calling ‘honey’ like before it will now become
‘my sweet boy or lovely daughter’. The husband will feel ignored and neglected
in the home. Wives, this is an area that you have to balance the equation as
much as you have the ability.
Create time for
your husband, go on a date and let a friend watches over the children or let
them go for holiday with grandma. Balance the equation now before the love goes
sour.
3. Building office work as a wall around
you – my findings showed that
some wives have turned their works to ‘mini gods or small gods’ so to speak, transferring
work from office even to the bedroom have become the habit of some, why will
husband not peeping at the neighbouring girls, work is good and money can do
some many things, love is sweet but if its not properly nurture it may wither
just like a rose that shines in the morning and in the evening no more.
Do the work and
create time with the man, interact with him and let him feel your presence at
home. Once you left the office or work place, drop every worry and trouble of
the work at the gate before leaving the office premises. It will also make you
free and lively at home. Do all you can to save your marriage.
4. No time to cook at home – this
is more applicable to the African man, every African man wants to eat his wife’s
foods, due to the complexity of the society, and some wives have used the
opportunity to neglect their duties to give their husbands good foods. Taking time
to cook for him is a sign of caring for him. Man is like a baby that needs pamper.
Like a popular
saying ‘the belly is the means of winning the man’s heart.
Some wives do
push their husbands to eat at different joints, where they meet different
ladies that can help them out.
Ladies be at alert!
5. Nagging and shouting at home -
living with the nagging woman is like having a live coal under one’s coat, one
of the easiest ways to loose the husband is to be nagging and shouting about
little things that happen at home.
The wife is just
sending the signal to the husband to find a better place to hide his head, no
wonder! Some husbands do not go home after leaving their offices, nagging women
will only turn the house to small hell; let me ask you, why will he stays at home
with you? That is why your husband does come home late.
‘It is better to
dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide
house’ Proverb 25: 24. Which some husbands have interpreted to mean, ‘is better
to be in cool joint than staying in the duplex with a nagging women’.
Act fast! And make
a change.
Though, some may say, love takes
care of all things and overlooks all wrongs, yeah! But believe with me if what
you have in your hands are not properly and tenaciously held, it may slip off
your hands without noticing that. Have you ever had the thought?
Do all within your reach to make
your home a paradise on earth, the book of Proverb 14: 1 says, every wise woman
builds her house; but the foolish plucked it down with her hands.
No universal theories or rules
that can solve problems at home or in a relationship, all you need to do is to
ensure at your best that it works. I wish you happy home, if any addition or
critics, you can add.
